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Mother Begs Son to Come Home for Chinese New Year

For families who live far apart, the New Year celebrations are usually preceded by much anticipation of warm reunions, hugs, laughter and too much good food. Regardless of our cultural background it can be either a pleasure to go home, an obligation or it can be a dreaded nightmare (as...

Water Bugs and Dragonflies

Water Bugs & Dragonflies

Explaining Death to Young Children By Doris Stickney This very short book tells the story of a colony of water bugs in a pond. Every now and then one of them climbs the stalk of a water lily, disappears and never comes back. Two water bugs make a pact that...

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Not too scary Halloween – Please

Halloween is a very popular celebration in North America, which many countries around the world have tried to adopt, more or less successfully. It is a major commercial venture but it can be a lot of fun too, provided we bear in mind that not every child likes to dress...

NYT- sad, angry

Social Emotional Literacy

All feelings are ok – how we interpret and deal with them may not always be. Research has shown that emotions can either enhance or hinder our ability to work and learn. They affect our attention and our memory. If we are very anxious about something, or agitated, we can’t...

Teenagers

Helping Teenagers learn about Responsibility

We all make mistakes. How we deal with them is the important part. When teenagers do silly things such as taking over someone else’s empty house for a heavy drinking, drugs, vandalising party, it seems like the perfect opportunity to help them understand about accountability and responsibility. A strict autocratic...

TEDxHouston|Talk on Vulnerability and Shame

Best empowering talk I have heard in a long time. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston who has spent the past ten years studying sensitive topics such as vulnerability, courage, authenticity and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on...

Kangaroo in pouch

Things I wish I knew before my Baby was born

Read books. Acquire the knowledge but most importantly arm yourself with the confidence that the parental instinct that bonds you with your baby is the most important thing and the basis for any parenting decisions. Take one last trip “à deux” before baby comes but plan it early enough if...

Sunset from plane

Flying with a Young Child

  If only flying with kids was as peaceful as it looks on this photo…! During a recent long flight with no food service and no personal TV screens, I sat next to a family of five and had plenty of time to be reminded of the challenges of flying...

Websites – Blogs – Downloads

  There is no shortage of parenting sites available on the internet and it is easy to get overwhelmed.  Here is my personal go to selection. It will keep growing as I discover more useful resources, so keep checking in.           DR JANE NELSEN has written and...

East and West – Motherhood around the World

Becoming a parent is a journey of self discovery, influenced by who we are and where we are. In her column “Motherhood around the World” Joanna Goddard, shares the points of view of American mothers on how the country they are living in influences the way they bring up their...

Butterflies at 798, close up

Could Empathy be the Best Cure for Tantrums?

When a child looses control of her emotions and throws a tantrum, it often triggers a sense of helplessness in the parent who may be at a loss as to what to do with the screaming child. The cause of the meltdown can seem so futile to us that it...

Girl w camera at Art exhibit

This Camera is better than an iPhone.

Have you noticed how more and more we live our life through a lens? I am certainly guilty of it myself. I need to be able to remember the special moments in my life, the smiles, the faces, the colours, the happy times. I need to capture them on camera...

Water play in park

Games to Play at the Park

There are few good days in Beijing, so when the sun shines and the air seems clean, we all want to drop everything and go to a park!  It is a wonderful opportunity to show our children that we enjoy spending time playing with them, so put your phone on...

Granny knitting by Drum Tower

Parent Visitors for Hire

Following the publication last Autumn of a new version of the “Paradigm of filial piety” a new Chinese government law came into effect on July 1st. This law which “firmly encourages” children to visit their parents once a year has given chinese entrepreneurs a new opportunity for business. It did...

3 babies in hutong

What I love about Beijing

        I went for a walk in my neighborhood on a mid Summer evening and here is a vignette of what I saw:   The family giving their 4 guinea pigs a taste of fresh grass, each on a bright red leash. The group of Grannies chatting...